Alot of friends have tied or are tying the knot over these past few years, and to date, we have got a number of wedding invitations lined up till next year. Well, congratulations to all these lovely couples who have made their decisions to spend the rest of their lives together. Pretty huge step ;)
So, love is in the air... I reckon?
Love, love, love...
I am no expert.
In fact, it just recently dawned on me that I am not (or rather, perhaps, no longer) a firm believer of the 'romantic love'. Oh wells, I was one of most little girls growing up to all the fairy tales where the 'princesses' will always eventually be swept off her feet by her knight in shining armour - one could only dream and wonder if one day in reality it would be the same for her, ey?
I have a couple of friends who claim they will never marry. The me before would most probably go, "Nah, you will one day. You just haven't found the Right One yet."
On the contrary, I now find that I have much respect for these people. At least they know and are sure of what they want or do not want for that matter and are not afraid to be honest about it. That way, you will not waste another person's time.
Marriage, in my own definition afterall would be:
Unless you proposed or were proposed to and accepted from the heart, and both have made your rightful vows before God in a religious matrimony, marriage is just a piece of paper which claims to officially tie you both together 'till death do you part' and would cost you much, much more to disregard the tie than what it initially did for you to create that tie - and where's the sense in that?!
Okay, even if there is such thing as romantic love, it could only last that long before you wake up from the honeymoon phase and have to make way for tolerance or compromise, or realize that it was perhaps a silly crush or infatuation, or worse, an obsession.
To me, love goes beyond all the 'butterflies in your tummy' bla bla bla.
Real love requires patience, trust, faith, sacrifice...and yes, it involves pain, which from an unconditional and pure love, with no expectation, gives joy or bliss.
Love goes beyond that of only romance - what seems to be widely spoken of or sung about.
I believe in love like a mother's or father's, a loving grandparent's, a brother or a sister's, a child's, a true friend's or even a neighbour's or stranger's with a pure heart.
Such love lasts and grows and never fails you.
Such love brings peace.
Such love as God's love.
"Love is patient and kind; it is not jealous or conceited or proud; love is not ill-mannered or selfish or irritable; love does not keep a record of wrongs; love is not happy with evil, but is happy with the truth. Love never gives up; and its faith, hope, and patience never fail."
- 1 Cor 13:4-7
