Alot of friends have tied or are tying the knot over these past few years, and to date, we have got a number of wedding invitations lined up till next year. Well, congratulations to all these lovely couples who have made their decisions to spend the rest of their lives together. Pretty huge step ;)
So, love is in the air... I reckon?
Love, love, love...
I am no expert.
In fact, it just recently dawned on me that I am not (or rather, perhaps, no longer) a firm believer of the 'romantic love'. Oh wells, I was one of most little girls growing up to all the fairy tales where the 'princesses' will always eventually be swept off her feet by her knight in shining armour - one could only dream and wonder if one day in reality it would be the same for her, ey?
I have a couple of friends who claim they will never marry. The me before would most probably go, "Nah, you will one day. You just haven't found the Right One yet."
On the contrary, I now find that I have much respect for these people. At least they know and are sure of what they want or do not want for that matter and are not afraid to be honest about it. That way, you will not waste another person's time.
Marriage, in my own definition afterall would be:
Unless you proposed or were proposed to and accepted from the heart, and both have made your rightful vows before God in a religious matrimony, marriage is just a piece of paper which claims to officially tie you both together 'till death do you part' and would cost you much, much more to disregard the tie than what it initially did for you to create that tie - and where's the sense in that?!
Okay, even if there is such thing as romantic love, it could only last that long before you wake up from the honeymoon phase and have to make way for tolerance or compromise, or realize that it was perhaps a silly crush or infatuation, or worse, an obsession.
To me, love goes beyond all the 'butterflies in your tummy' bla bla bla.
Real love requires patience, trust, faith, sacrifice...and yes, it involves pain, which from an unconditional and pure love, with no expectation, gives joy or bliss.
Love goes beyond that of only romance - what seems to be widely spoken of or sung about.
I believe in love like a mother's or father's, a loving grandparent's, a brother or a sister's, a child's, a true friend's or even a neighbour's or stranger's with a pure heart.
Such love lasts and grows and never fails you.
Such love brings peace.
Such love as God's love.
"Love is patient and kind; it is not jealous or conceited or proud; love is not ill-mannered or selfish or irritable; love does not keep a record of wrongs; love is not happy with evil, but is happy with the truth. Love never gives up; and its faith, hope, and patience never fail."
- 1 Cor 13:4-7
7 comments:
Hi. I like reading your blog and your post on "Love" got me wondering. Love comes in so many forms and most of the time we get so lost in it. Glad to know you have come to accept how romanticism only gets to certain phase of life.
Im just wondering if you have found love in your current relationship? that may sound silly but sometimes, when we thought we have found love, most of the time it is not. like you said, it could be infatuation or obsession. in your post you never mention how's your relationship like so i thought i should ask...if you don't mind sharing :)
Hi. Thank you for reading :)
I have given thought to the question you posed. As I have mentioned, I am no expert, so I wouldn't say for sure. Then again, as you have said, love comes in so many forms. Yes, I do find love in relationships with my kids, my parents, grandma, my brother and true friends who care - I'm very grateful for these blessings in my life.
I pour out my gathered thoughts on issues in which people can relate to as I do not think anyone would enjoy reading about me yapping away about my problems or everything to do with Me or My life only. There are more to life out there, I believe. :)
There are indeed more to life out there. I don't find you yapping about Your life. I feel it is actually fine to pour out your thoughts here since this is all about it. Life in reality can be cruel and mean so it's fine to talk about it here. I feel writing helps me to see things better and gives me a clearer mind even just by reading can help me. I haven't been blogging in a long time and it is always refreshing to come back here to read and write...
I read you're married. How's married life with the hubby? Mine has been dull and slow but otherwise going ok...
sorry for the confusion on the ID used. i had some troubles with this "leave your comment" post...
So, is your blog jazzing2life.blogspot.com?
Yes, I like writing. Even more so by hand. That way it feels more connected and from the heart.
However, I do not feel the need and see the purpose in proclaiming to the world how my every status is in my life, sorry. I am no celebrity. So, it does not interest anyone. Even celebrities go the extra length to protect their privacy and personal lives, because that is regarded as normal.
If I were to say my life and relationship are awesome, I do not get an award or prize for that. Likewise, if I were to say my life sucks, I will not get a solution or a better life instantly. Nothing changes.
It is all the state of mind and how you choose to perceive things and live your life. :)
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