Reminiscence

I know I say this alot, but I am going to say it again. So, for the umpteenth time, I miss England - Manchester, especially.

Despite the cold freezing winds and unpredictable English weather, I love being able to throw on layers of clothes - I get to mix and match and experiment with different styles without worrying about being a laughing stock. People there dress up!

I love walking the distance without getting tired easily - because of the weather and then running into buildings to hide from the cold. At least, there was reason, or rather, 'excuse' to go dining, shopping or catch a movie. That was literally what we did back in Manchester.

I remember The Printworks. Will and I would often 'hide' there, most of the time ending up at Nando's, Hard Rock Cafe, Yum Yum Buffet or ODEON Cinema. We could watch more than one movie in a day 'cause tickets were cheap. I got student ID, so I got discounts. *Silly Grin* Life was gooood (Not that it's bad now. If I get the chance, I'd love to re-experience it all over again, with my son, Nathan, abroad).

I miss walking the streets of Manchester and London, even alone (I did that alot). Love the convenience in using the public transportation offered. On a typical day in London, with not much tasks at hand, I would take the underground tube to places as far as in Zone 3. I remember taking the Central Line to Bond Street and exploring Selfridges, or the Piccadilly Line to Knightsbridge and paying a 'visit' to Harrods. I still remember the one glass of ice-cream which cost us a good 15 quid - Yes, $terling pounds! We took a photo of it, but dang, we lost it.

Summer in London was great! (Why London? 'Cause it's much warmer for a longer period of time compared to other places in the UK). Who could blame us for craving the sun and warmth after being in the freezing cold for at most, 10 months a year? I know we get sun in Southeast Asia, but here, it is humid and leaves you sticky-icky and awfully sunburnt by the end of the day. There, you get warmth (or heat during heatwaves), but dry and constant cool breeze.

I miss 'playing tourists' in London with friends.
On the double-decker London Tour Bus during Summer 2006.

Experiencing the World Cup 2006 Fever.

I remember the streets of London, especially Leicester Square, when Italy won the World Cup. I swear it felt like we were in Italy, not England. Italians and Italian fans were everywhere, jumping with joy, parading with their flags and those driving, were sounding their car horns.

Tired from the summer heat and long-day tour, but happily contented.

London is perfect for tour and holidays and shopping only if you are loaded - with $Money$, of course!

I miss Manchester more. I miss Aunt Bibi. She is a cool aunt who cooks great curry and makes great salad, and is a great shopping companion and a friend you can talk your problems out with, like a peer buddy.

I miss going to Trafford Centre. Awesome shopping and dining place with beautiful cruiseship-like interior design.

I miss matches at Old Trafford - the place, the atmosphere (What a blast!) and the bonus part - getting to meet Manchester United players!

Park Ji Sung!

Alan Smith! (Oh my! Notice how round I was!)

I miss chilling out and going for drinks with friends. Love the varieties of drinks available for selection. (Here in Brunei, alcoholic drinks can only be consumed in the privacy of one's home. Public places are forbidden from selling and allowing the comsumption of alcohol. Extrreeeemme! Tsk Tsk Tsk)

I miss life as a university student abroad - the huge lecture halls where students (and even non-students) of different age groups attend; the libraries and IT facilities; Student Union; the parties we had at student accommodation. All we had to worry about were assignments and exams.

Look at the pretty birthday cake a friend baked for my 18th! Gee, how time flies! I feel old.

Treated like a 'princess' on my 18th. An advantage for being the youngest in group, huh?

This may sound absurd, but I do miss working in England - at Vina Noodle Bar & Karaoke & with REED Employment, UK. There were RIGHTS and pay was goood.

I miss GREGGS. I miss SUBWAY. I miss PRET A MANGER. I miss Frankie & Benny's. Ooh! I learnt that KRISPY KREME Doughnuts has arrived in the UK. Dammit! I missed that!

I miss hitting the gym at LA Fitness - the indoor pool, the steam and sauna rooms after workout.

Ah! I need a vacation, or better, a re-location!

Reality bites

Sorry, Peeps. Blog's rather out-dated. Hadn't been able to put up new posts. Have been rather caught up with work & studies, and not forgetting, Motherhood.

Speaking about work, my workloads are getting heavier these days. There are more upcoming projects, meaning more things for me and my colleague to handle, more sales to do, more things to put up in our advertisement (I design them), more customers (existing & new ones) to come. For being a developing & management company, I would say we are expected to do works of a contractor office. Dammit! What is wrong with management?!

It sucks, purely. With this, I am referring to most typical traditional-thinking Asian bosses' management. Question is, do they really know how to manage, the right way? I hate the fact that they like to deal with business and things through relations. I despise the fact that they think older employees with (what They call) better & more experience deserve higher pays and better benefits for being older, (so-called wiser) and experienced. Look, the world is changing.
It makes me wonder what we, the younger generation, are studying so much for, if we are only being underestimated by these typical older bosses who claim 'Young People' (Hau Se Kias) know nothing.
Man, I seriously feel underpaid. Wait, I am underpaid. I am expected to do the same works done by the manager, only more. Tell me if I'm cursed. Why is it that most jobs I've done include me having to be the one cleaning the toilets? *Screeeamming already* I am expected to keep the toilets clean and vacuum the office. Hold on, what do I do again? As far as I'm concerned, I'm the one dealing with sales, answering calls and greeting walk-in customers. I do most of the paperworks, because for obvious reasons, Good English matters here. (Not that I want to brag, but I seriously find adequate knowledge, if not full education; Good English; Computer literacy & knowledge; & the right management skills do matter, especially in today's businesses, period.)

A friend asked, "Just out of curiosity, what is your actual 'designation' (in the company)?"

Oh! *Laughs out Loud* Non-existent. I came in with no specified title. It's a small-scaled company, no doubt. Was told I shall help around, as an assistant. It was fine, at first. Pay was acceptable for the little workloads. However, as months pass, what do i get? I haven't even had my first paid annual leave. There was little increment in salary, I'm grateful. Come to think of it, the starting pay should not have been acceptable when I'm expected to do the jobs of 'bulls and horses' (Juo Niu, Juo Ma/ Cho Gu, Cho Be).

Reality is, it has become a norm among private companies and firms in Southeast Asia, especially. Wages and salaries have been lowered and made acceptable to most good qualifications and skills, which should really deserve and by law, entitled to higher pay.

Another thing - Delegation. Having studied and fallen in love with Management, I shall safely say, most existing management I see are...Piles of Sh*t! Just because you have become your own boss (by whatever means) does not give you the right to throw all the burdens and workloads and blames (regardless of whether it was the bosses' mistakes in the first place or not) to your fellow subordinates and employees mainly because they work under you. Work delegation happens only when you have already mastered and know pretty well everything that is going on from the operating core level up to your management level and would like to enrich your own job specification. So, you leave the job you already know to your trusted subordinates.

It's sad that what really happens is, without knowing a thing about how the most basic operations work, these bosses leave all the work and responsibilities to you, expecting you to produce them what they want, with no further instructions. You shall not ask questions to do with obtaining additional relevant information because according to them, it is now your task and responsibility to acquire them from sources which shall be looked up by you as well. And when things go wrong or missing, even if it was the bosses' fault, we, as employees, shall 'be honoured' to receive all blames and accusations, again, because they're the Boss(es) and they say so.

Another thing I'm truly against is 'Black Market'. I know it is common among Asian to do illegal business. To them, it may not matter how they climb up to the top of the 'Get Rich ladder', as long as they get up there. To me, I find it foolish and pointless. Why? Even if and when you do get rich, are you at par with other world class' businessmen or tycoons? Will you find the honour to call and label yourself successful? How will you respond in interviews or just any social gathering or meeting with any other true successful businessmen or entrepreneurs when asked about your secret and strategy to 'success'? Name me which famous and world-ranked billionaires achieve what they have achieved through illegal activities. Such shall not even be called 'Famous'. Let me introduce you to a word called 'Notorious'.

I can give you an endless list of complaints and dissatisfying facts, but I guess these shall be enough to make you see why I wish to get out of here ASAP!

Rights

Just another day at work. Spending my lunch break of an hour and a half in the office, as usual.

The office phone can't stop ringing and it's pissing me off! It's not the first time this happens. Don't Bruneians (or perhaps, most Southeast Asians) know of the "Lunch Break Hour(s)"? It's fine if it has just slipped your mind that the clock reads 12pm++ OR you're trying your luck just in case our office is open whole day.
Come on! Any sensible person will think "Oh, between 12 to 1 pm, if no one answers after my first or second call, they must be out for lunch." I know I do, but Noooo, hell NO for Bruneians. They won't give up. They'll keep calling and let your phones ring till it's going to explode! It's worse if you use your personal mobile phone to SMS some existing customers because they don't answer after NUMEROUS calls (for some reasons, either they're super busy to give a damn about answering their phones or they just don't know the purpose of having a mobile phone), there goes your weekends and off days. SERIOUS!
Some of these customers (I shall not specify nor name which 'group' or race, but you should have guessed or known better) will keep calling you up in the early mornings on your weekends and off days or SMS you a long-due reply in the wee hours at night.
Customers, I understand you are fellow consumers in this commmunity. So am I. You are fellow employees/employers. So am I. We work. We have our rights to have our lunch breaks when it is time for lunch break. We have rights to have off days because we need these time off from work and enjoy other things that life can offer.
So, please. Don't give me shits like "Oh, but we only have free time during your lunch break. How arh?" *Screeammming inside* I tell you, just because I'm partly doing sales and answering your calls, I (try to) keep my cool.

Let me share with you of a Mr. Bastard. He called on a typical work day, but it was off office hour by half-an-hour, but I was in the office, and I answered his call.

*Names have been changed to protect privacy.

Me : A* Property, Good afternoon.

Mr. Bastard : Hello. Are you the boss or the worker?

Me : I work here.

Mr. Bastard : Oh, you work here. Who's your boss? What's your boss' name?

Me : My boss? You want her full name? Well, she's known as Anne*.

Mr. Bastard : Ok, I'm looking for a piece of property at Gadong. I need to ask your boss.

Me : Gadong? You mean a piece of land?

Mr. Bastard : No, a piece of property. Terrace at Gadong.I want to ask your boss if you have.

Me : We do have terrace at Gadong. 3-storey.

Mr. Bastard : Oh, you do? How much is it?

Me : Uhm, Corner plots are sold at B$###K & the Intermediate ones r B$###K each.

Mr. Bastard : Oh. Are you Philippino or Chinese?

Me : I'm... Chinese. Why?

Mr. Bastard : The way you speak... you speak verryyy sloowww.. & u like to drag your words.
You sound very arrogant. Is this the way you speak normally?

Me : What?? Arrogant? No, I don't normally speak this way.
(Was gonna tell him I had flu & was sick, but he interrupted)

Mr. Bastard : Yeah, you speak slow..like you're going to sleep & u like to drag your words.
You sound arrogant. And you speak with a slang.

Me : What slang? I wasn't 'slang-ing'!

Mr. Bastard : Yea, you slang all the while.

Me : This is how I speak. I mean the English. How else do you want me to speak?!

Mr. Bastard : (I swear he was smilling. I could hear frm his tone & voice) Ok, I'll get back to
you.

Me :*Slams phone*

Look. I haven't charged him extra for attending his call after office hour! (Yes, we charge! Kidding.) Then, I was already taken aback by his ill-mannered question "Are you the boss or the worker?" Even if I am the boss, u don't ask like that! Worker?!
And then he underestimated me, thought I didn't know which property we have. Sir, I am trained to remember all our available properties and know how and what to answer when anonymous customers call! I have 'em all listed in my head that my boss has to ask me sometimes.
And I was working with the AUTOCAD (an architectural & design program) on the computer & of course I had to think of precisely which property you were asking & give u the correct answer. Sorry if I sounded like I dragged my words, and pardon the flu. If you had asked properly for an explanation, you could have gotten a good apology, instead of the name "Mr. Bastard" now! Now, my boss knows of you & it pissed her off, too. She thinks you're just another jealous broker/developer calling to pick on us. (It's a country without much existing rights. So, yes, we do get these alot. Even plagerism of building plans!)

Slang? Which slang, please specify 'cause as far as I'm concerned, you spoke with a slang, too, a typical old-chinese-busybody-kopitiam-uncle-Slang. I don't speak with a 'slang'. People who 'slang' usually try hard. I wasn't even trying & OK, I admit, was half-paying attention since I was working on another thing at the same time. If you consider this slang, I don't know how else to speak normal. It's called PRO-NOUN-CI-A-TION, Misterrr.

I'm anticipating your call, Mr. Bastard. We have your number (Thank Goodness for Caller ID). I won't scream at you, but I could taste that vengeance will be sweet. =)

Touch My Body

NOT my body!

Have you guys checked out Mariah Carey's new video? Yes, that's the title of the song.

It's funny. Credits, especially to the NERD. He's a great actor! LOL.

Check it out.



Man, I'd say Mariah's still HOT HOTT HOTTT for her age!

Some Things That Most People Don't Know

Okay, let's start with some which have gotten the attention of most people already.

Our eyes are always the same size from birth, but our nose and ears never stop growing. (I think it meant the eyeballs, to be precise)

Hmm...Let's see & compare...

Okay...Proven.

It is physically impossible for you to lick your own elbow.

Women blink nearly twice as much as men. (Now, now, we ain't fluttering at you, 'kay?)

And here are some I have discovered along the way...

Apples, not caffeine, are more efficient in keeping you awake. (Try it! Especially Green Apples. I used to always bite one when doing revision or reading at nights.)

The number '98,765,432' multiplied by '9' gives you '888,888,888'.

And here are some listed, but haven't gotten to my attention before.

King of Hearts is the only king without a moustache. (Card 'pros' should have known or noticed this, ey?)

A snail can sleep for 3 years. (Oh my! Imagine being squashed while sleeping!)

An ant can survive for up to 2 weeks underwater. (No wonder this pest keeps appearing even after you (think) you've washed 'em away. Arrghh!)

A duck's quack does not echo and no one knows why.

Now, English, English, People!

The only word in English with all the vowels in reverse is 'Subcontinental'.

'Dreamt' is the only word in English that ends with '-mt'.

Words that don't ryhme in the English language are the popular 3 colours: 'Orange, Purple & Silver'; and the word 'Month'.

And the Bonus(es)...

Try this. When you see a friend hiccups, ask him/her if he has already eaten. The person must answer "Yes, I'm full." without thinking about anything else. Before you know it, hiccups are gone. (Don't give me that look. I can't explain why either.My husband did this to me once before and ever since then, it has worked wonders.)

And...

Most of you reading this would have tried licking your elbow.

Oops!

Tell Me What YOU think

" If you cannot fight rape, better lay down and enjoy it."

If you haven't heard, these are quoted words from the mouth of Kota Kinabalu UMNO pro tem head, Haji Roselan Johar Mohamed.

Source: Bornet Post & Women in Politics, May 2004

http://www.onlinewomeninpolitics.org/archives/04_0524_my_vaw.htm

It disgusts me!

Oh, wasn't he born off a woman?! How 'bout his wife or daughter(s)?! Does he not have any respect or care?!

Roselan did later apologise.

"Please accept my humblest apology. My best intention had been misconstructed and misinterepreted," he said in a statement, as reported.

He later explained that the particular phrase was a proverb he took from Confucius.

Look, we don't give a damn about what-blardy Confucius proverb. Well-intended or ill-intended, he should have known better or perhaps, tried rephrasing it so it meant well.

Okay, so he mentioned his best intention had been misconstructed and misinterpreted. Exactly, what 'best intention', if I shall ask?

I won't deny I haven't heard or read of such tactic in order to save yourself from being murdered later by lunatic rapists con serial killer, one shall boldly pretend and act accordingly in the 'play'. Should Roselan had meant what he said this way, I think he should go for effective communication and presentation courses. Will do him good in his future public speech and presentation.

So many elections going on this year.

Heck, politics. It's a whole lotta covered-up 'mess'. When do you see politicians do a great big deal of good deeds? Especially when the elections are comin' up. Exactly.

What can I say? Be alert! ...and vote wisely.

Cons and Scams

Are the cons these days getting stupider or it's just the public getting smarter?

I got an sms coupla weeks ago.

TAHNIAH. Simcard Anda Memenangi hadiah Cek Tunai BND$9000 Dari KONTES DANGDUT TPI (KDI) Sila hub:

006285215453999

Terimakasih.

Translation:

CONGRATULATIONS. Your Sim Card has won a cash cheque of BND$9000 from the TPI DANGDUT CONTEST. Pls contact:

006285215453999

Thank You.

Scams like this are RIDICULOUS! Nontheless, annoying, VERY.

This Indonesian scam has been going on for months or perhaps years in Brunei and had only come to the public attention recently.

Here's the catch. You contact them at the number given and you'll be asked to send an amount of money first to their account in Indonesia in order to obtain the gift money.Exactly, which fool would fall for that? Sadly, there were many. Remittance have even warned these poor victims of the notorious con account. Some believed and thanked them whilst some greedy ones still hoped for the better and insisted on sending their money, which obviously 'disappeared' with no fruitful return.

The case appeared in the Borneo Bulletion, however, with one of the victims reportedly claiming that it was the remittance company who took their money.

How pathetic!

I immediately replied to the SMS:

Gila! Sejak bila aku suka dangdut? Nak tipu pun tak pandai guna otak! Apakan? Ku perlu kirim uang dulu baru dapat hadiah, ya? Nanti. Ku lapor polisi dulu,k?

Then there's this other scam from China. These cons obviously work in teams and they've hacked into the telecommunication systems. Our company had just registered for two new numbers, yet, before anyone was informed, we got LONG DISTANCE calls (Our phones have Caller ID).

Oh, man! I tell you. You should listen to these China girls with their high-pitched and squeeky 'cartoony' voice. I feel like putting my hands through the handset (if only I could) and give 'em a good slap on the face or just choke 'em dead! Hehe...DON'T mess with me.

And they'd start asking for your name, your particulars, and tell you all sorts of rubbish. There was one claiming they're calling from Singapore, then another from Kuala Lumpur and claimed that they were going to open a hotel in Brunei and need our support and names yada yada yada... My brother-in-law got some calls on his mobile phone telling him that he'd won a cash prize of hundreds of thousands, but he'd need to send an amount of money first in order to get it.

Dang! It's even annoying when you tell them you're busy and they go

"Ok, it'll only take 3 minutes of your time."

"No, I'm sorry. I'm really busy"

"Ok, how bout 2 minutes."

And when I said "I'm sorry. I'm not so fluent in Mandarin", they went

"It's alright. I'll speak slowww-ly."

---____---"

First of all, if they don't know you, WHY did they call in the first place?! Don't they have any respect for one's privacy?! Besides, if they could hack into the system, they should have already gotten the details and particulars of the specific person/company registered with the telephone numbers.

ARRGGHHH!! I tell you. RACISM happens not simply mainly because of people's shallow minds and arrogance, but because of what the discriminated race does which triggers such hatred and discrimination.

My China friend in UK, who truly loves and would be honoured to serve his country for life said this.

"The Westerns are racist especially towards the Chinese because of what the Chinese themselves do."

It's true. Chinese do black markets; they enter and stay in other people's country without valid visas; they issue fake ceritificates; and note this: Where there are Chinese, there are gangsterism.

Period.

Food For Thought

Check this out.

It's written on the wall of one of our office washrooms, right in front of you when you sit on the toilet seat, doing your business. Haha! Yeah, like a Reminder, but I find it interesting. And it's written by the Boss...I know 'cause below was drawn a cartoon guy who resembles him.

Watch your Thoughts

They become Words

Watch your Words

They become Actions

Watch your Actions

They become Habits

Watch your Habits

They become Attitude

Watch your Attitude

It becomes your Destiny...

Watch Out! Be Aware...

Happy 2008!

Another year has come to an end.

Seems like the world is welcoming the new year, 2008 with wide open arms.

It's said to be a good year (We hope).

Well, we'll see.

For now, *Cheers* to everybody!

Here's a toast to 2008!

Jamie Lynn Spears Pregnant

Okay, I see comments and critics out there claiming how stupid she is and that she's going to ruin her life, her career and her future because of the one 'mistake' she's done.

This is soo absurd! Whatever makes anyone of you think one who has a baby's had her future down the drain? I KNOW, and I can safely say, "Life still goes on, nonetheless." If any of you claim that having a baby, especially at a young age is the end for the mother, whatever difference does it make to women who have babies even at a later age. Yes, you may have succeeded and have better securities and all, but still, having a child isn't that easy. Shall I say I feel sorry for your parents for having you since you think having kids means throwing one's future and career away? Successful and secured or not, a mother still has to do what a mother has to do.

Yes, Jamie Lynn may be underaged, only 16. Yes, it was a 'mistake' and she's shocked and scared herself. Hey, the baby itself isn't a mistake. Besides, we shall applaud the girl for her courage and responsibility to hold accountable of her own 'mistake'. At least, she doesn't continue making mistakes or committing bigger sin by going for an abortion, which certainly isn't the best or last resort.

Think it this way. The baby may be a blessing. He/She's a Life, a Gift from Above.

My son, Nathan has brought us soo much joy. I am young (not THAT young though, HAHA!)
I tell you, it is NOT easy looking after a baby. Yes, I get tired at times, but the joy and happiness you feel from holding your baby and seeing him smile and laugh at you, words can never describe. One needs to be a mum (a good one, at least) to know what I meant.

I get people who think Aww...what a pity. What a waste. Why didn't you have an abortion? You're so young.

Look, this is MY Life. MY choice. And I'm glad all these happen.
It makes me appreciate Life itself more and strive for the better.
I still do what I do. I'm working during the day. I have classes on some evenings and weekends. I passed all my papers. At night, I look after Nathan and that includes waking to his cries for milk or nappy change or even slight discomfort.

Have I actually thrown myself and my future away?

*Smiles*

I've Got My Eyes On YOU!

YES, YOU!!!

I meant the Apple iPhone 8GB Cell Phone.

My current celly frustrates me! I think it's been trying to tell me its 'Time' is coming. -_-"

Its battery life can barely stay 'alive' for the next 24 hrs. Imagine how troublesome it is to fumble around for the charger during an important call, and it's not everytime and everywhere I get to find a powerpoint to do that. It keeps shutting itself on me! Grr~!

Heh... Not many cell phone actually really attracts me. So far, for now, I've got my eyes on you, iPhone!

Figures, if I really need one, I might as well get one which will be long-lasting.

Besides, it's so chic and slick! Just look at tis' Beauty!

Tis the Season to be Jolly...

"Fa La La La La La La La La....."
Aaarrrggghhh~! It seems as though I'm the only one 'floating' in the midst of Christmas mood!
Christmas has always been my favourite festive season out of all, since young, though there were no real White Christmases till 3 years ago, or a huge & beautifully decorated Christmas tree complete with surprise pressies underneath for me.
I don't know. I guess it's just the pleasant and warm Christmas feeling I get everytime December comes. I have always loved the fact of gathering together with my family for dinner and perhaps, a Christmas film, then awaiting the time to go for Midnight Mass. Oh, the carols & candle lights!
O wells, I'll just carol away with my Lil Nate! He gets excited just by listening to Christmas songs! Awww~

Marital Bliss

Life is not always perfect. In fact, it never is. So is a marriage. It is how you handle it and try to make it as perfect as it can be in your own world.

I have always admired my parents. Been married for over 22 years, still as sweet and loving as the first day they met. They would still call each other out for lunch during breaks from work, have long chats on the phone like any young and fresh couple whenever one's away, have every anniversary day reserved especially for the both of them- us, kids stay home. Dad never fails to give Mom praises and compliments and surprises. He always tells us, "Your Mummy's the most beautiful woman to me, even when she's old and grey." Now, Mom's undergoing Chemotherapy and Dad is going to accompany her to every single session.

Till this day, I can never recall seeing or hearing any fight or quarrel between my parents. What exactly is the secret of keeping a blissful marriage?
I have read a couple of articles that, in times of disagreement and fights, we should always bear in mind and remind ourselves the reason we fell in love with the person we are with, in the very first place. Impressive. And it is.

My husband? Well, Will made me laugh alot and I was always a happy person near him or just at the thought of him. He still makes me laugh and happy. I get to be completely myself with him and he has always been himself since we were just friends - yes, with all the flaws and few bad habits. LOL! I thought he was a nutcase for not caring if he would make a fool out of himself, but hey, that was what amused me. Yes, it is true, Guys. Girls would prefer you being your true self. So, don't try to be someone you are not. If she loves you, she should accept you for who you really are.

The sweetest thing my husband has ever done for me? Sweetest, ay? I would say Two. One, the wait and company home from my work till the wee hours every night when in the UK (not a single complaint, ever, and he even helped me clean up the workplace, making him my manager's favourite) and the piggybacks he insisted on giving me from the frontwalk, into the house and up the stairs, though I declined them- he did give them, still, anyway. Two, for staying beside me in Labour Room though he had a whole night without sleep and then guiding me in breathing and pushing properly during delivery. He almost cried when our son was born!

Communication. Good communication is vital in any relationship. Any dissatisfaction and worry, or even a happy issue, should always be shared. I have come to an agreement with Will that we should share and voice out anything that concerns one or the both of us. Said, I want to be able to talk to him openly and clear any doubt and problems calmly and I want him to feel that he could talk to me about anything as well. It has worked brilliance, indeed, ever since. If you are not a good comforter, at least be a good listener and then try your best, in your own way to make things right. It makes a heck loads of difference than choosing to shut yourself out.

Keep in contact. This does not mean that we should track down our significant other's every move. At least, say, if you are out with friends or at work and should be home late, give a call. A short one will do. It saves the other who is waiting for you at home from pointless worries. Why not try this? Surprise the other once in a blue moon with messages or short call telling he/she that he/she is in your thoughts. It will certainly make one's day. I know it does.

Most marriages these days seem far from the picture of a happy ending like most marriages back then. Perhaps this is why most people fear the 'I do's. I always remember my Dad saying that he disrespects people who commit infidelity in marriage. It is a shame for they have not only broken the promise they made to their spouse on their wedding day, but the promise they made before God. So, remember this, men and women alike.

I may have just been with my man for over 3 years and we are still 'Just Married', but I believe I have found my own marital bliss.:) I will keep this going.

Thank you, Babe, for remembering every anniversary and your effort for making the best out of each and every of our days.

I can still see the clear pictures in my mind, of old English couples we saw, hunched and on walking sticks, holding hands, and the sweetest and most touching one of all, an old husband gently pushing his old and crippled wife in a wheelchair, out and about town.

Why shouldn't every marriage last this way?

Women: Revolutionised

Understanding women.
Guys, do you ever bother to?
Personally, I've only known a couple of great male friends who actually do and have taken the heart and initiative to try and understand this so-called complicated and fragile species.
You claim that we are the weaker species. Well, generally speaking, strength-wise, we are still the weaker ones (NOT counting some *ahem* softy SHEmales tho...) So, guys who take out on their girls or wives, SHAME ON YOU!Where the hell are your balls?! Pick on someone your own size and strength!
Chivalry's DEAD. If you can find me 2 out of 10 perfect gentlemen who still sincerely care for and respect a woman and her worth, I'd LOVE to meet those two!Preeetty PLEEEASE!:D
So, what do women want?
YOU say it's a headache understanding us. How hard is it to understand the one species who likes talking things out and tries solving any problems and queries that bother them? At least we don't find connection through rounds of drinking, talking craps or football shows and games, whatever else I've left out, you name them. We COMMUNICATE. How is it possible that any problems get solved when one refuses to communicate and opts to run away from anything that bothers him until he finds his own peace and then assumes that the problems are gone. HEY, problems don't just disappear! If you run away from them, they'd only collect and build up into a huge pile of junks waiting to explode BIG TIME someday later. And when that happens, who do you blame? ALWAYS US, Females! Say we're the problem. We bug you, we bother you...yada yada yada. How fair's that?! Have you ever looked deep into yourselves and think how selfish you really are??
Okay, here's another I just don't get. A guy can have many girls and he's the man. He can even give her sweet talks and sex her off. Yet a girl can do the same and she's a whore. No doubt it's a stupid and disrespectful game of cheating, whether it's a man or a woman doing it. The table's turned. It's simple. You started it, and now it's a fair game we'd like to join in just to get even. :)
Oh no...We've long waved goodbye to being household 'pet' you keep at home to make your beds and living area clean and cozy or preparing you sumptuous meals ready on the dining table when you open the door and then serve you whenever you need us. Well, we can still do those, only that we ain't that stupid anymore. Relationship and life are about giving and taking. Yes, you say it well and enough. Try applying it then:) Thank You. Oh, in case you haven't noticed, we enjoy working our asses off, upgrading ourselves, physically, educationally and emotionally. We CAN, in fact, stand on our own two feet if one day you've decided that you've gotten bored with the one female you already have and want to stray. Go ahead. We ain't gonna suffer or threathen to kill ourselves and die. That's the most ridiculous thing to do!
You admit you're the dumber species who don't take hints. You want us to be straightforward but you can't seem to take every comment or straightforward queries we throw at you. Why? Then try to be a little more sensitive. Picture yourselves in a woman's shoes. How would you feel if we overlook your feelings. If we forget your happy and important ocassions? If we ever make you feel unappreciated or kept in the dark? How's that?
Life's never fair, they say. Most of the time, we tend to take more than we give. There needs to be a balance if there should be peace.
This piece of article's on generally gender issue. No offence on specific guys who are exceptions, or so you think. Heh:P So, guys, give a shout out about what is actually going on in your mind and heart! We think you're the complicated and hard-to-figure-out species!

20, Clueless...Not!

Okay, will be 21 this November.
For many in the old days, 20's a big number. They'd gone through alot in their lives, learnt more (about life) than we'll ever learn these days; some may had well already been married and parents to several number of children, no kidd!; work experience- well, look around and count the number of experienced businessman and tycoon you see today who were actually highly-educated then.
I'm 20, a student, and I've gone through alot in my past 1 year, especially. There were, of course, the tough times and the good ones, but it's all greaaat now!Really! Ah, well... it ain't stopping me from doing what I do and achieving my dreams, like most people would question. Why? Life still goes on and I am certainly glad that it happens:)

I Miss Manchester!!

Yesh, I DO! HEAPS!! I miss Aunt Bibi, though she's nw in the US for work. I miss all the peeps there, those all the way frm Sunderland when I first went over to the UK, peeps whom I've met n worked with at Vina, (Howie, Kim, esp!) n yeah, MUNCH..n REED, n a few from London. I miss goin' to Arndale n Trafford Centre. Owh, n matches at The Old Trafford. I miss goin to Printwork for movies at ODEON. Call me crazy, I miss the weather, too! Heard that it just snowed few days back. Argh! I missed it! I knw most of yous bck there would envy me for being in a place where it's summer 24/7. Given a choice, I'd say No, thanks!
Top of it all, I miss Will! *Sniffles* Yeah, Babe. I knw ya'll be back soon. (YA BETTER!) Hee hee :P
Am currently in Sunway doing ACCA. Nah, NOT Interior Design. Figured, our choices in edu these days depend well on the future promises n...Ahem..Income. Heh. So, I'm stickin onto sth which I KNOW of n which is in great demand n would bring me Somewhere when I graduate..
Aight, tht's all for nw. Sorry, Peeps, for 'abandoning' mah blog soo long.
I gotta run! Just finished today's lectures. Man, I have about 25 hours a week! *Drops*

Oh Lord, Let there be Light!

Grump. Grunt. Tsk tsk... Wht is my problem?!
I've been bad. Real bad. I'm short-tempered. N get upset n mad at the slightest annoyance. Where is Patience? Wherever is The Smile? The Laughter? Even Babe's commenting on my lack of laughter n smile these days. One, I ain't well. Yesh, it's been a looong time n it's getting on my nerves now! I wish this discomfort would just go away! Was sick, down with cough n flu bout a month ago. When those were gone, I started having upset tummy. I've lost appetite n taste for food. Food I used to enjoy, now, they make me sick at the thought of 'em! Everytime after I eat, I feel like puking n well, most times, I literally do. Wait. I ain't bullimic! Or am I?!
Another thing. London. It makes me sick! I miss life in Manchester! =( At least there, I lived in a Home. And a Big n Beautiful one I shared with friends. N it was quite cheap! Here, it sucks! U can barely find an affordable n beautiful yet comfortable place! My rental's a killer! N it doesn't feel like home! N working in London sucks! Why do I always get 'shitty' jobs n stingy bosses?!? Am I cursed? Owh.. Here I go again..Complaining. Grumpy Ol' Me. Perhaps it's a Punishment for being bad.
N just before I quitted my last lousy job, I got into a 'fight' with the annoying common British Yobs. Shocker? Believe it. I'd never been soo pissed in my life! My screams n shouts attracted staffs from the kebab shop across the street. *Shrugs* Like I care! Those stupid hooligans came into our restaurant, drunk, looking all pathetic n literally begged for two quids! What is wrong with these people?! N tht was NOT the first encounter. They ain't beggars but act worse than one n they're f*cking annoying! (Mind my language, but I've had enough with these common no-brainers)! They're practically loafers who create havocs n troubles. Kids who skip schools n wears tracksuits ALL seasons n hang around outside any neighbourhoods, creating soo much annoyance n noise like they own the place! N just a few days ago in the papers, one normal English citizen was STABBED to death by these Yobs (Common british youngsters) for asking them not to make so much noise as it was the wee hours n the neighbours are all tryin to sleep. WTH! N they ARE dayym proud to be the Common Hooligans they are! The upper-class n more educated people hate them. The police hate them cause they give 'em headaches. Vandalism. Drugs. N I Despise them!
Okay, so this drunk common GIRL came in with a friend, acting all sympathetic (she looks more pathetic to me) asking for two pounds for the bus. N she kept asking us to hold her bag, I don't know wht for! The manager said No. N we kindly told them No. Man, but she kept on asking me to hold her bag n begging 'Puh-leese'. Tht was it! First, It's Bullshit! Look at her! She had the money to get herself drunk n in her bag, she had a whole pack of ciggarette! N there she was, claiming she did not have any change for a bus ride?! N who was she kidding?! A bus fare is a pound fifty! N she later tried to make a mess in the restaurant. Even the English customer, eating got pissed!
So, she went out n came back seconds later with loads of change in her hands. She walked in n came up close to me, asked me "Wht do u do?" (She's not even making sense!) to which I replied sternly "It's NONE of your business!" N she said "Yes, It is" n tried to flip all the dishes on the buffet table. Tht was all it needed to spark things up. The manager got mad n pushed her out n closed the door. The customer walked up n pushed her outside. She kept kicking on the glass door n tried to get back in. She kept pushing back n kicking n her other useless friend spat on the angry customer who ended up kicking her! (Serves her right!) I was wayy too mad to remember wht I shouted then.
N tht was when her sissy common boyfriend came to the scene. All the time he used only his mouth, which I don't even know wht he's muttering! N the stupid girl broke the glass door.. Tht ended in police case for vandalism n causing troubles during people's business hours N for drinking and smoking when she's underage. Plus, the friend said she was pregnant! (This is another thing. These common lazy arseholes, they get emselves pregnant young, end up being single parent n they get money from the government. So, the more kids they bear, the more money they get. N other hardworking people who work their asses off in the country get taxed horribly..for wht? To feed these common lazy people n give em places to stay once they turn 16 n if their parents don't want em!) N in one night, I sat in a police car n an Undercover officers' car - to help find n identify the culprit who hurried away when she saw the police. CHICKENS! Where were the brave n screaming hooligans back at the scene?!? HAH! She was handcuffed and was crying, begging the police officer to let her go n tht she did nothing wrong. N the sissy boyfriend kept eyeing me n muttering god-knws-wht. Argh!
Oh Dear God, I shall not have so much hatred and anger in me. Such people exist, I know. N I shall learn to forgive n forget. (That girl slapped me! I didn't lay a single finger on her. Cause If i did, even if she started it, I'd be in trouble...because she's British n under 16. -_-" Man, I really don't like how some British laws go.)
I know it's hard to love our enemies, but I knw I'm such a sinner n yet, You love us all the same.
Show me The Light, Lord.
Okay.. I hope these kids are fine n tht they'll see The Light as well.
*Sigh* ..N I feel a little better now.
Praise be to God!
=)

Movin', Moving, Moving On...

Just moved into new place for 'bout a week now. Well, I'm lovin' it:)
It's this lil' 'paradise' called Camden Town - a Punk's heaven, with exotic punks & unique beings who could never care less of how others might view or think of them. -which is Cool!
Plus I always think this place has got it all. Guess tht's why it's named a town of its own. It's got markets selling every little exotic pieces, from jewelleries to clothes, and food- Italian, Mexican, Indonesian, Chinese, Indian, Malaysian, Vietnamese, Thai, Japanese, Moroccon, Javanese, African.. may be more. It's got convenient tranport links, 24-hour buses, other open-till-late clubs, takeaways, internet cafes, and grocery stores. It's made to be a tourist town. You'll never get bored..
Alrighty. Enough with Camden. I know I love it. That's good enough.
Hmm.. Wht's new? Ooh! Jacky introduced a new movie, The Covenant (Thanks! NICE!). The preview's AWESOME! I wanna watch it! It's out already, but not here. SUCKS! Movies n music always come out slowER in the UK. How pathetic!

The Truth: 9/11 Reloaded

September 11, 2001. 5 years on.
5 years back, I remember watching the TV, interrupted by the Breaking News: The World Trade Centre was hit and brought down by what was reported "2 planes hijacked by terrorists".
Now, the movie, "World Trade Center" is out.
There are still videos, pictures and news going around on this catastrophic event. And there are members still investigating on the incident.
On the Zogby Pole, 49% believe it was an Inside Job planned by the VIPs. 66% want the 9/11 investigation reopened.
5 years on, people are beginning to see for themselves and think. I know it does not take one to be a scientist or professional to comprehend. It is pure common sense.
Scientists claim that NO metal building is destroyed in a fire, but in the debris, they found melted metals and no remaining of any plane parts. Besides, it was claimed that the planes were almost out of fuel when they reached the towers. The Meridian Plaza burned for 19 hours without collapsing. Now, how could two towers as tall and as strongly-built as WTC collapse completely in like, an hour for one & 2 hours, the other? And why was the rubble destroyed right after?
Another question. Why did WTC 7 collapse? Only possible answer is it might be hit by the rubbles from the collapsing tower and exploded then collapse. BUT it was a 47-story, steel-framed building. If you see the way it collapsed, it looked more like a controlled demolition.
Also, the Boeing 757 which was claimed to hit the Pentagon in Washington was never there. They found the hole, (a hole so neat and impossible to fit a Boeing 757, plus its impact when hit) but no plane. What actually happened?

"Buildings don't eat planes. That plane, it just vanished. There should have been parts on the ground...Where are the parts?"

-Skarlet

How is it possible when Norad had succesfully intercepted on suspected hijacked planes 67 times during the year prior to 9-11, but not on the very day? Incoincidence, you say? Then how could it be possible that the hijackers got into the cockpit if throughout the chaos, someone at the terminals should have received news and sent help following the transponder, but nothing happened at all?

So many 'IFs'. More research to be done and reports and proof to be found. Until then, should the world or nation put blames on unlawful terrorist acts? Or should we say, even if terrorism followed, it was purely a cause of influence and 'trigger' from one of the world leaders, himself?

*Shrugs*

Freee~! Weee~!!

Quitted my job! Hated it. Well, it was fine. The manager's great, the staff who make good and humourous companions are great. It was the long hours and the wayyy low pay and that stingy and fussy boss I despised! What's worse? The boss' wife, complaining and acting like she rules the place when she knew nothing on the menu! Argh! Anyway, I'm free free freee! Weeee~! No more working OVER 12 hours a day straight, 6 outta 7 days a week! No more less than 8-hour sleep every night, or wait, I never slept at all. I fainted! Seriously. LOL!
Hmm... What's next? I ain't sure. I need some time off for myself. Will be looking for a much better part-time job soon. Oh, University's starting soon. Can't wait! Haha! I sound like a N-E-R-D, but Hey, Uni's FUN!=D



Heh... Here's parts of a building at my campus. =) Okay, the campus I WILL be studying my course at.


And here's a Sneak Peek into the things Imma need to work with/on in my course:




Fascinating, isn't it? Interior Architecture and Design. It's all about Space, Lighting, Shapes and Structure. May be more to it. I wouldn't know now. So, I'll find out =)

Ooh, Summer's left for good, I guess. The leaves are turning yellow and withering. Yeah, Autumn's here. This means Bonfire Night and Halloween are coming! Owh, and I WANT a trendy or perhaps a classy Autumn trench coat! X)

*GRINS*