As I Mature

I got this off my girlfriend. It gave me good laughs, but hey, these are facts! (Well, most of them.)

As I Mature

I've learned that you cannot make someone love you.
All you can do is stalk them and hope they panic and give in.

I've learned that no matter how much I care,
some people are just assholes.

I've learned that it takes years to build up trust,
and it only takes suspicion, not proof, to destroy it.

I've learned that you can get by on charm for about fifteen minutes.
After that, you'd better have a big willy or huge boobs.

I've learned that you shouldn't compare yourself to others
- they are more screwed up than you think.

I've learned that you can keep vomiting long after you think you're finished.

I've learned that we are responsible for what we do,
unless we are celebrities.

I've learned that regardless of how hot or steamy a relationship is at first,
the passion fades, and there had better be a lot of money to take its place!

I've learned that 99% of the time when something isn't working in your house,
one of your kids did it.

I've learned that the people you care most about in life are taken from you too soon
and all the less important ones just never go away.



Okay, for the big willy and huge boobs part, I'd rather have a big heart & good brain.

Also, I don't believe that money works in saving a dying relationship. Of course it makes everything convenient when there is money, but if none is trying or playing his/her part to revive the relationship, it cannot be saved. Period.


Anyways, just for laughs :)

Gloomy

It's been gloomy lately, raining endlessly.
I certainly don't mind the cool and dark weather... as long as the rain stops and none of the other catastrophic events follows - flash floods, land slides which lead to power outage in certain areas for days. It's depressing.
The weather around the world has apparently gone nuts! What with heavy snowing in the north and extreme heat waves in the south. Again, the nasty effects of global warming. I'm not trying to sound cliche but it feels like Armageddon is near.
So, it's February already. What have I done so far?
I know I haven't exactly written down my resolution(s) for the year 2009, though I've had a few good ones in mind.
I can't help feeling that more unfortunate events will follow during this year - never thought that it's heading anywhere great. Silly, I know. I should be optimistic and looking on the bright side, as I've always implied before.
Alright. I better get back to my work. Take each day as it comes.

Come whatever, let Thy will be done.

Happy 2009!

So, it's another year and to date, there's 359 days left to go till the next.

2008 had been a great year. It had been awesome! I guess time flies when you're actually enjoying yourself.

Loads had happened and loads are happening and loads more are yet to come...

Heck! I don't know what I'm blogging here.
I haven't got the inspiration, hence the no-updates.

For now, let's just hope 2009 will be a much better year!

Happy New Year, everyone!

Twilight Fever

"I've never given much thought about how I'd die, but if I were to die in the place of someone I love, I guess that's a good way to go."

I was completely not in the thrill or excitement & I did not even get what the craze was all about, until I agreed to go on a movie date with my girlfriends from work last Friday night.

Since then, I'm hooked...


I've always been fascinated with Vampires, but there's something special which sets this movie apart from any other vampire movies I've watched.

I thought it'd be another soapy, cheesy teenage love story, but somehow, either the casts are good actors and actresses or they really connected, I could actually feel the intensity and chemistry.

Bram Stoke's Count Dracula, where Count died in the arms of a female human he loved, was sweet and all, but it did not touch me as much as this one does.

There was just something about Edward Cullen...(I only like the character)


Sad that such man only appears on the silver screen.
Sadder still is the fact that he isn't even human. *LOL*
Okay, I won't spoil the rest of the movie for those who haven't watched.

I can't wait to have my own collections of all the 4 books! It's sold out, twice!

What Will You Be In Your Next Life?

Funny.

This crazy topic just popped up during our conversation among colleagues in the office.

Say, if you have the choice (or chance), would you like to remain your original gender or become the other?

All the males opted to stay males, of course - as usual, due the pride and ego in being the more dominating sex, stereotypically, that is. There may be exceptions for special case(s), though.

Most females, including me, chose to stick to our feminine side.

"But, why? Females are the ones who suffer more in life!" we were asked - what with the most famous, monthly cycle thingy; having to bear children and give birth; the limitation in things we can do; and always the victim and preys in gender discrimination, sexual molestations, and the list goes on.

I'll tell you why. Yes, we may be generally and biologically, the weaker sex. Despite all these limitations, we are proud to be able to achieve what we have achieved, as women, throughout the human evolution and revolution - and we're still working hard and achieving more goals which would seem impossible and absurd for women to ever achieve, especially in the olden days.

Why work so hard?

One lecturer said, "Wanna be rich? Easy la. Just marry a rich man and enjoy life."

I said "No. So what if I ever marry a rich man? The wealth isn't mine, and I may not end up happy. I only find self-satisfaction from achieving my goals on my own effort."

He said "Good. I like the way you think."

During my job interview, my General Manager asked,
"So, you're married. Why do you want to work? Bruneians are well-off."

One, correction, not all the Bruneians are rich. They're only lucky they have a rich sultanate and do not have to pay taxes.

Two, (my answer) "I personally, am not the type who sits home and wait for my husband to feed me or the family. I want to work and cater to myself and my family as well."

I got the job I love. *Grin*

It's important for women to be able to stand on their own two feet.

Hell, yeah! We're singin'

"...If I wanted the rock you're wearing, I bought it. The house I live in, I bought it. The car I'm driving, I bought it, 'cause I depend on me..."

Yes, we may have to endure the monthly menstruation and ovulation cycle, but having to have that lets us know that our bodies are actually functioning well, the way we are created and as God intended for us.

Pregnancy and birth? Nauseas, cramps, spider veins, stretch marks... Sound familiar, Mummys?
Well, the wonder in discovering what your body can go through and produce really pays off, and Oh, the joy in holding your baby(ies) in your arms, and watch them grow! - Indescribable in words.

We may seem the weaker ones who suffer from most harms and prone to more danger. So, it's important how we carry and protect ourselves.

Oh, for the other few who opted to become males in their next lives, one gave the reason that she's tired of all the sufferings and heartbreaks she as a female, has to go through.
Another said she'd have to be a handsome male in her next life - reason being handsome men get all the chicks. Haha!

Hmm... I'd love to be a handsome man for a while, provided that all the unfaithful and ungrateful playboys become helpless females first. Time to taste your own medicine. *Evil grin*

LOL!

Congratulations, Obama!

So, the Democrats won! I'm happy. Many people around the world are happy, too. Wee~!
However, I can see great expectations and hope coming from the Americans and the world.

Come on, give it time. I am positive it's all turning out well. I know one aspect has already, but for the time being, that'd be up to time to disclose to the world.

I think people should eliminate whatever racial and negative thoughts and perceptions they have towards this potential leader. The world has changed. Let's give Obama a chance to prove to the world what he can do.

Congratulations, Democrats!

November 4th, 2008

It's November already! And it's going to be an exciting month.

November 4th, 2008, today, is the date for the scheduled 56th consecutive quadrennial United States presidential election.

I really hope Barack Obama wins. It's high time US have yet another Democrat to cater for their economic needs since the wise Clinton - especially at a time of bad recession (one closest to the 1929 Depression) like this. Hasn't US learnt from their mistake - twice? Besides, from his high spirits and capabilities, I believe that Obama has the sincere will and power to help change the world - for the better. (I am currently on his book, The Audacity of Hope.)I have followed, as much as I could, the debates between Obama and McCain. To be a great leader, and especially a world leader, one requires the ability to stand up front and grasp every one of the audience's attention by merely saying a word - I can tell you that people with such ability are very rare. More importantly, he needs to ensure that his audiences are interested and motivated to continue listening. Apparently, I see all these qualities in Obama.

I like the way Obama stands up for his points made and still respects the opposition when shot back. McCain may be old and experienced, but it disappoints me every time his points are being questioned, he fails to find reasons to, at least, support them. Instead, he changes the topic - all the time! - and tries to 'attack' his opposition again and again. Yes, I've read that you think straight talk is a DO, but, in order to be respected, please respect first.
If Democrat were to win, it'll be the first time in history that an African American - a great and influential one - runs for president.


Likewise, if Republican were to win this election, it'll be historic, for there was never a female who achieved this, but, really, Sarah Heath Palin for vice president? No offense, but, What?!
Seriously, an aging ruler with a fashion mannequin who needs to learn to acquire more tact are a good combination? Not.

Another reason to be excited about the month, November? More friends will be back from their studies oversea. My sis-in-law, one of them.

And...

It's the month of my birthday - all the more reason to love it!

Oh, and it's another month closer to the end of the year - which include my approaching upcoming exams (Yikes!) and Christmas + New Year (Yay!).

Paulo Coelho

I am, once again, addicted to reading Paulo Coelho's books.

The first I finished 2 years back was The Zahir - interesting reflections on life, love and happiness - before I got too busy with my own life for anymore books.

Was searching for the bestselling 'The Alchemist' - finally found it at a bookstore nearby my current workplace. Finished that. Brilliant. It mentioned and applied 'The Secret', very much alike the one I mentioned in one of my previous posts.

"When you really aspire for something, all the power in the Universe will conspire to help you achieve your Destiny."

Now, I'm on The Witch of Portobello. Beguiling - That's how all Paulo Coelho's books are. You can't wait to read on and know what happens next. The amazing thing about his writings is that he bases them on true life experiences which apply and reflect upon the lives of many others.

I don't know about other readers. Reading Coelho's books always puts me in a position where I start to ponder about my own life. His ability to put almost anything most people would never discover or perhaps have, but never let emanate from their hearts, into words, is just... simply intriguing.

An influential author - in all the good ways.

Oh Gawd! I'm a Movie Freak!

For a break from everyday work life, Will & I decided to go for a movie date last night . Never expected the movie would turn out that good!

And no, it isn't what you're thinking. No, we didn't watch Butterfly Lovers...-_-"
I know the craze - what Wu Chun, local Brunei-bred artiste - first time starring in an international movie, yada yada yada - it was in the national papers. Yes, I've read.

Count.me.out. They say he's really that good-looking, alright. Not my cup of tea. He's more of a pretty boy to me, and boys like that don't last long in (my) interest, no offense. I prefer men a lil on the rough edge, a lil on the bad side - dark looks - but with brains. Need I say more?

Okay. This might sound cheesy at first, but we watched

THE HOUSE BUNNY

Haha! Yeah, it's good, with Adam Sandler as one of the producers - starring Anna Faris (Scary Movie; Hot Chick; Bestfriend; My Super Ex-Girlfriend), Kat Dennings (Raise Your Voice; Big Momma House 2; The 40-Year-Old Virgin), Katharine McPhee (from one of the previous American Idol).


It's hilarious - with blonde moments, and Anna Faris pulled 'em off nice. It's sexy - Playboy bunnies & geeky girls-turned-hot. It seems Anna Faris worked out for the movie. She's looking so ever H-O-T! So are the rest of the girls. Emma Stone looks great, too. Katharine McPhee's gorgeous, as ever (though pregnant in her character). I've always loved Kat Denning's looks - punk, but sexy.

Toned and curvy are the real sexy!


It's reality-related - sorority campus rivalries. Mean girls - What I'd call the group(s) of 'Plastics' - so-called perfectionists who go for looks, status, popularity.

Typical. I don't see why certain cliques should exist. Why? Everyone should be his/herself. An individual. Anyone can be friends or be part of a group, a society, a community.

Looks may fade in time, but what's inside remains.

Meaningful.

So, we had good laughs and actually enjoyed the movie.

Hmm... what next? Blimey! Movie's one of the very few source of entertainment here!
We need a vacation, a goood getaway, out from this country! I haven't flown anywhere for over a year now!

Help!

Eagle Eye

AWESOME - In Caps & Bold!

Shia LaBeouf & Michelle Monaghan were fantastic! So was Billy Bob Thornton.

And, (Oh My), has Shia LaBeouf transformed since Transformer!

Yeah, yeah, I'm a sucker for men with dark looks...

*Looking at my husband* (Hmmm...Point proven?)
Ha ha ha! Well, Will thinks LaBeaouf looks great, too! Macho

As usual, I won't be giving the storyline away. So, no spoilers for those who haven't watched the movie.

All I can say is it's absolutely worth the wait. :D

The action, the suspense, the stunts - Double thumbs up!

Monday Blues

I'm knackered!

Yeah, there went the weekends. Come to think of it, I didn't have the 'weekends'. Won't be having any this coming Saturday and Sunday either.

I was and will be attending Tax classes during the weekends for 14 hrs each! The lecturer's a 'flown-in' and she's great, but I was fighting to keep myself awake halfway through. It's interesting, but I was just exhausted! It's like working for 14 days straight! *Shudders*

Oh, wells, it's for what's best. So, I shall be keen with what I'm doing. I want my ACCA, as fast as I can! I'm glad I passed my last 2 papers, and I'm still amazed I scored the highest in the 1 everyone claims to be the hardest. (But I like Costing & Management!)
Anyhoo, Praise the Lord!

Ah! Another week to endure...

*It's okay. It'll be over before I even know it. I'm good.*

Mama Mia!

If you are into musical/ theatrical movies, MAMA MIA! is a Must-watch. Totally love the songs - The Best of ABBA which made up the story of the entire movie.

Meryl Streep (Donna) is excellent - as always. Amanda Seyfried (Sophie) - fresh new talent! Also in the cast are the famous Bond (formerly)- Pierce Brosnan (Sam), Colin Firth (Harry), the legendary Julie Walters (Rosie) and Christine Baranski (Tanya).

Beautiful island, brilliant cast, and great music and singing!

*Darn! Should've watched the real theatrical in London*

Next movie - I can't wait till Eagle Eye is out!!!

Updates!

After soo long!

Loads have happened, and it's all goood. Wait, it hasn't only been good, but it has been AWESOME!

Exam was fine. Result's coming out soon. Very soon.

Career wise, it has never been better! I am actually doing a job I really enjoy, finally! - no toilet-cleaning and all those sh*ts. HAH! And my former Boss told me (when they asked me to stay on with them) :

"There's no way your salary will be increased. Even if you get out there, you won't be able to get such high pay. You're still young, still a student, still inexperienced."
Damn right I've proven you wrong!


I've learned something. Something so simple, yet so effective and real.

Always Think Positive. You can be what you think you ought to be, really.

It's all in the Law of Attraction.

For those who haven't heard of this featured film/ documentary, "The Secret", I highly recommend watching it. Truly inspiring and motivational.

"Happiness does not mean that everything is perfect. It means overseeing the Imperfections and cherishing what you already have."

There IS Justice in the World!

*Yay!*


Few days back, I have quietly wished for a sign.


"If there is any justice in the world, (Please please please! *Fingers crossed*) David Cook will win American Idol AND Manchester United FC will win against Chelsea in the Champions League."

Guess what.

I got a positive sign!

David Cook is indeed 2008's American Idol! He has won the kiddo, David Archuleta by 12 million votes!!! Yes, TWELVE MILLION! HAH! I hope this is enough to shut those teeny-booper fans of David Archuleta's up! I disliked David Archuleta for being boring, but the fans are wayy too annoying and immature that it made me hate David Archuleta. I do not see why those shallow supporters of his think he would make it far. Do they even know the market and customers' demands worldwide? 12 MILLION more votes only in America is a HUGE number. They have forgotten that David Cook has more fans who do not vote in American Idol, worldwide! And I am one of them. (:

And Yesss, Manchester United FC has proven that they are Champions! Champion in Premier League 2008 & Champion in Champions League 2008 when they beat Chelsea (in both leagues to claim their titles). Nah-uh! Eventhough they won the Champions League through penalty kicks, that is no pure luck. Also, thanks to goalie Edwin van der Sar for saving one of the penalty shootout to give Manchester United a 6-5 win over Chelsea after they tied at a 1-1 draw in the first all-English Champions League final.

CELEBRATE!!!

So, there is Justice in the world, afterall.

WooooHooooooo~!

I hope Justice is on my side for my upcoming exams! :S

Always Be My Baby

I am in love -


with David Cook's version of Mariah Carey's "Always be my Baby". It keeps playin' in mah head, over & over!

We were as one, Baby

For a moment in time

And it seemed everlasting

That you would always be mine

Now, you wanna be free (yeah)

So, I'm letting you fly

'Cause I know in my heart, Babe

Our love will never die, No...

You'll always be a part of me

I'm part of you indefinitely

Girl, don't you know you can't escape me

Ooh, Darling, 'cause you'll always be my Baby

And we'll linger on

Time can't erase a feeling this strong

No way, you're never gonna shake me

Ooh, Darling, 'cause you'll always be my Baby...

He totally rocked it! Randy said, more than anyone on the show, Cook is ready to make his own album. Simon said it was like sort of coming out of karaoke hell...into a breath of fresh air! Paula said it could be a movie sound track. Well, who knows, it just may be. :)




Well, he has got tons of amazing performances like Happy Together, Eleanor Rigby and the improvised version of Michael Jackson's Billy Jean (reinvented version originally by Chris Cornell, but even Chris Cornell, himself, was flattered by Cook's performance. http://hollywoodinsider.ew.com/2008/03/chris-cornell-s.html) - to name a few.

David Cook is awesome because he has the ability to turn any less popular and less heard of song into something amazing, likeable, and most importantly, something fresh. Originality & the Courage to take risks. I like the way he makes a classic and extremely pop song rock. For example, this classic Lionel Richie's "Hello"



I so want Cook to win, though *fingers crossed*, sadly, it's expected that David Archuleta would win, instead. Look at the kid's fans! (mostly consisting of little kids as well)

Figure, even if David Cook does not win American Idol, he will make it big. Someone with such talent will break it through, internationally. So what if David Archuleta wins? He will be any temporary craze which will die down soon enough. Preferably, he may resolve to High School Musical or something like that.

David Cook is way too cool for American Idol.

These China Con Ladies Don't Give Up, Do They?

*Laughs out Loud*

I got a 'Long Distance' call yesterday at work. I picked up to hear a recorded voice message (with perfect English, more to that of a White's):
"This is an automated voice message from Brunei High Court. You have a hearing on the 28th of April at 10am. Your 2nd hearing will be on the 12th of May at 2pm. For more information, please press '9'"

Out of curiosity (since it is to do with something legal from the high court & having heard the word "hearing" which supposingly indicates something serious), I pressed 9, only to be greeted with:

Con : Herlo, May I herlp you?

Me : Yes, I just got an automated voice message saying I have a hearing at the court.
What is it a- (I was interrupted before I even finished my sentence)

Con : Yea yea yea, thiz is the Bruney High Courrd. Can I harve your name, pleas?

Me : *Smug-smilling* (Knowing that it's just another scam) Let me guess, you are from China,
riiight?

Con :*Excited* (She's prolly forgotten about her initial plan) Yea yea yea! Arr you from China?

Me : No, I'm not, (Thank God).

Con : Are you from Sing-gaporh?

Me : No.

Con : Whear are you from?

Me : It doesn't matter. May I know which company you're from and where you're calling
from?

Con : Yea yea. I am from the Bruney High Courrd. May I hav your name & IC numberh?

Me : *Trying to keep calm* Well, I know people from Brunei High Court and they certainly do
not sound like you.

Con : (I can hear she was abit pissed. Haha!) Yea yea yea. I am try-yin to checkh forr you
which message-h you receiv. Can you girv me your name & IC numberh?

Me : My name does not matter. This is a company you're calling.

Con : Owh. This ish your com-pahny phone? Yea yea yea, I am try-yin to herlp you. Can I hav
your name & IC numberh?

Me : My name doesn't matter. Wait, you were the one who sent me the message! I should be
asking who you are!

Con : Yea yea yea. I am try-yin to herlp you to checkh forr you whed-ther the message-h was
sen-t to who. (Shouting already) So, can you se-pell out yourr name one by one?!

Me : (Getting rather pissed, too) Why should I give you my name?! Look, I'm very busy here.
(Constantly being interrupted) Can we just treat it as a wrong message wrongly sent?!

Con : (Yada yada yada) Oh-kay! Bai Bai!

Me : Yes, thank you. BYE! *Slam phone*

What is with this China scam thingy?! It happened soo many times before. It has stopped for a good few months. Now it's back and Eng-gelish-speakin'. Hahaha! Why? Were they spending the quiet few months searching for some China ladies who has goooood Eng-gelish (supposingly)?
This is silly. It's hilarious! And needless to say, it's embarrasing to the Chinese race!

It's enough that you, Chinese escorts have 'monopolised' the hotel business in the country. It's sad and frustrating at the same time. Frustrating because any normal (clean) Asian ladies walking into a typical hotel with their men could easily be mistaken as an escort!
Now, this? They just don't know how to keep a low and respectable profile, huh?

And don't they know the right way to communicate? It's soo rude to keep interrupting!

It's over-the-top annoying! I wish I have the authority to 'throw' 'em out of this country!

Puh-leeese! Using the Brunei High Court's name to target some poor-gullible people? Sorry you came across someone who isn't so gullible nor dumb! Besides, the Brunei High Court consists of locals, and mostly, Malays. Haha!

Now, really, are the cons getting stupid-er of the public getting smarter?

Life!

Time flies!

It's already May - almost half the year gone!

Is it me or does it seem like this month, the time speeds by?

My little Nathan's turning 1 this 12th. Aww, how fast! It seemed like not long ago he came into this world.

Oh, my exam's coming up, too!

I can't wait to get my ACCA over with. I do not mind the hard work at all. At least I know it's for something worth.

But I certainly loathe being ordered and treated like a slave. I mean, who doesn't?

Arrggghh~! I do not wish to grumble more, but my workload's really getting heavier. I'm expected to do works of like 3 or 4 people. It's fine if I'm paid well, but I am not! And there's shortage in staff.

How smart of these typical bosses. They want to recruit people with good qualification, but they don't want to pay more. Still dare to ask if I have graduate friends to work for 'em. *Laugh out loud* I believe my friends can do better.

American Idol Season 7

This season's American Idol is, by far, the best, I must say!

I love the way the finalists improvise from their song choices. It just gets better and better each week, overall.

My favourite Americon Idol finalist would have to be DAVID COOK. This guy rocks, literally!

He is what I call pure talent - Jack of all trades (in musical genres). Great vocals. Love the way he could make an extremely classical pop song rock - and his versions always sound goood. Wait, they do not sound good. They sound Great, yes, even when they are not rock.

Simon was right. If this competition is based purely on talent, and not popularity, David Cook could have won the whole thing. *Applaud & Respect*

However, there are some parts of the competition (at this part) which I just do not get. Namely, Jason Castro, Brooke White ; and -I know alotta die-hard fans out there will boo me hard for this one, but I really do not get this - David Archuleta. No, really. These three can sing. Problems are:

• Jason Castro - He is nothing more than a pretty face, or so they say. What immediately comes to my mind when I see Jason is, a college guy who is good with his guitar - which he plays alot on in his dorm - and could easily pull off a sweet song to melt some typical college chics' hearts.


• Brooke White - I actually think she looks better and better each week. She is more of a singer-songwriter who could play the piano and guitar. She knows her range of vocals and has wisely chosen to stick within that range, which is good. Her performance this week was 'labelled' worst, yet, she stays.


• David Archuleta - he is young, very young and charming. Do not get me wrong. This kid has got the vocals, but honestly, if he were to debut an album or single, I will not purchase any. His style stays the same that I lose the thrill of watching him perform whenever he goes on stage - no, really, I do, no offence. His songs are too 'sissy-ly' pop. It gets boring.
  

This week, Carly Smithson was voted out. I see this coming - she has one of the most powerful vocals among the few, but lacks innovation and 'retro' in the way a Hollywood Superstar should dress and look. The only thing that shocked me was it (Carly's elimination) came too soon (sooner than Jason Castro got voted off), and worst of all, she was in the bottom two, together with Syesha Mercado, when both these girls were the best performers for the week!

Carly was all smiles that I think she was one of the happiest contestants ever for being eliminated. On the contrary, she really needs not worry. As Simon said, she could walk away with her head held high.

Syesha Mercado. She has portrayed interesting personality during her latest performance. Randy called it her best performance to date. Paula said she had brought the house down from the very beginning. Simon thought it was very sexy and it was!

I like this girl. I think she has got the talents and looks to be a star. Despite showing improvement, I really cannot comprehend why she ended up in the 'bottom seat' a number of times. I am glad, though, she stays.

Now it really makes me wonder if those who watch and vote on American Idol are a bunch of super-sissy and shallow people. Either that, or the voters are a bunch of kids - majority, teenage and little girls, perhaps.

Oh well, this is what happens when you get the public to vote for a winner. It is almost always unfair - taking into consideration the fact that most cool fans of musical genres other than pop could not be bothered to watch American Idol; or the fact that some potential 'smart-judging' voters do not have the time to catch the show or vote at all; or the fact that some contestants were initially much more popular, with a larger fan base to begin with, compared to the others.

At this stage, it is rather predictable who the next American Idol will be. I am not surprised at all if it turns out to be David Archuleta.

Even if potential stars like David Cook or Syesha Mercado were to walk away next, they will always be true Hollywood celebrities to me.

Love & Security

Thanks, Lynn & Anthony, for dropping your thoughtful comments for my previous post.


Will I stay, knowing that I have no love for the person I am with, but only a sense of security?

My answer will have to go with Anthony's, which is, No. I will leave.


It is true. Why should one be selfish enough to just 'make use' of the significant other for security and a sense of belonging?

Put yourself in the other's shoes. Say, would you be happy to find out that your other half only sticks with you because he/she feels secure, not because he/she loves you still? I know I cannot accept that. I would be devastated. I would feel so, so used.

Besides, there is really no point of staying. Would you be happy having to eat, drink, breathe, or perhaps, spend the rest of your life with one you feel no affection nor love for?

There is no doubt one feels great knowing he/she is being loved. I can tell you it feels even greater to know that you love as much as being loved. This is Life. It is not right to only receive, but to give as well.


Lynn did mention about commitment. Now, this is another issue.


Why and when does one commit?


Men, please. Ditch the belief that women are the kind who jump into commitment or get crazeeey about marriage. It is a Myth!

Truth is, women (these days) do fear marriage. Well, not marriage as it is, but a marriage gone wrong i.e. marrying the Wrong One.
Definitely, we do not simply commit to another.

Divorce seems to be a common matter nowadays. Why? Most would go with the popular reason - being "Irreconcilable Differences".
Is it really because these couples were not meant for each other, or that they believe they have fallen out of love with each other?
Is it really possible or probable to fall out of love with someone, at all?

Or is it simply because their marriage has just gone stale? Perhaps, they have not spent enough quality time together or shown enough affection. They need to constantly remind themselves the reason they fell in love with each other in the very first place, and most importantly, the reason they decided to be each others' soulmates and tie the knot.

Unless they married for security instead of love, their marriage could have really ended badly.

It is not unusual for people to mistaken the sense of belonging and security for being with the other, as a sign that he/she is ready to commit to the significant other.

So, how does one know that the one he/she is with is the Right One?

There is really no right or wrong answer to this question. The 'requirements' to be the Right One for oneself may and shall never be similar to another's expectations.

Let's put it this way. You will know when the Right One comes. Only you can tell.

So, marry your Right One, for Love and Security, with Commitment.

Will you stay?

This is interesting.

I heard on the radio today. The DJ was asking the question:

"Say, knowing that you are no longer in love with the person you are with, would you still stay because you feel secure, or would you leave?"

Much to the surprise of the DJ & myself, most of the callers, male and female, answered "I'll stay", some believing that with security, in time, they'll learn to fall back in love with the person they're with.

How about you?

Me? I'll post my answer later. Please post your comments and answers. Thank you.

As for now, I need to run. I'm off work & I've got a class to attend in less than an hour.